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Genesis 24:63-67
New King James Version (NKJV)
63 And Isaac went out to meditate in the field in the evening; and he lifted his eyes and looked, and there, the camels were coming. 64 Then Rebekah lifted her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from her camel; 65 for she had said to the servant, “Who is this man walking in the field to meet us?”
The servant said, “It is my master.” So she took a veil and covered herself.
66 And the servant told Isaac all the things that he had done. 67 Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent; and he took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
To all my single Abigails out there, this post is especially for you, and for the ones that are already married, if your husband does not reflect what God says about the profile of godly a husband, I encourage you to pray these verses over your husband. I have friends that did it, and you know what they say about the Word of God, IT NEVER FAILS! (Hebrews 4:12)
This is a subject that is dear to my heart, because it gets me so much to see and hear so many women around me suffering and struggling so much with men. I often asked myself, is it because they do not know what God has in store for them? or they willingly choose to be miserable due to lack of faith. Before reading the Bible, I had no clue that our Father has such great plans for me for my couple life, and my choices in men had nothing to do with the will of God. But, once I had this revelation, I stop looking, let the peace of God enter my heart, and trust Him because I know that His promises are always fulfilled despite the plans of people or evil against you in Jesus name.
The other day, I was speaking to a friend and she was telling me about her relationship status, and told me that her last relationship did not work out because her standards were too high, and when I asked her if her standards were based on God’s Word? I was speechless when she answered “yes” and she looked confused and worried that she could ever find a man according to God’s Word. When I chose the first picture, I was thinking about her. Ladies, God is not a liar, satan is and marriage is a divine institution of God established in Genesis 2. God has great plans for us, we were never meant to be alone . The Word of God in Isaiah 34: 13-15 teaches us that God matches every animal to its companion. Now ask yourself this, we were made in the image of God, the animals are not, but God still managed to take care preciously all that He creates, so don’t you think that if He could do it so perfectly for animals that are not even in His image, He can exceedingly do it for us that are His daughters? Especially that His word tells us that this what He wants. Now, please I am talking to the single ladies that choose willingly to choose an unbeliever, and then eventually cry and suffer after, and expected God to transform that man into a godly man? Really?! Did you ask God if he was the one? Does he reflect what God said? Or, you choose yourself not based on the Word of God, and then the tears come, and you have though like you have no chance in men! At this point, it is whether you compromise your relationship with your Creator (and you know how you will end up) or you make it right. We just have to decide to believe, trust and wait for Him.
The Abigails, when you decided to give your life to Jesus, it means that you decided to let Him be the Master of all your situations including the choice of your future husband meaning that, in our Manuel of life which is the Bible, we have the clear indication of what kind of husband God wants for us. Although there are much more, but I have gathered a list of non-negotiable for a godly husband that I invite you to pray, confess and immerse yourself in it, so Jesus who is the way can manifest him in your life for the glory of the Father. Now, some people can think, how can I pray for this? Let me tell you that Jesus needs to be the center of your life, asking Him for His wisdom for everything, from the dress you wear in the morning to an important choice you should make in your life. So, don’t you think it will more than natural to not only look, but also to choose the profile of the husband He wants for you through His word?! Remember, Jesus has nothing but great plans for us. (Jeremiah 29:11)
Keep in mind that Father God commands us to guard our heart in Proverbs 4:23, so when you have your list based on His word, don’t you think that you are acting according to His Word, and He will be happy about this? Yes, the Word of God never lies and fails so if He said it, it means that the profile of this man exists ladies, yes, he exists so you just have to learn to ask, declare, confess it in you life and wait on God as the Word of God teaches us in Psalms 37:23. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS LADIES, just because you cannot be alone for a period. Get busy in the Lord for His glory, and you will be surprised to meet the one according to the Word of God during this journey.
Remember “God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” Ephesians 3:20.
Since we have different tastes, the physical traits in a man will be different from bald, short, tall, to slender, well-built, a few extra pounds, black and white men, etc. But, God gave us the fundamental characteristics in a husband that He wants for us. God expects us to be happy and to be treated more than well. Matthew Henry, one of the greatest commentator of the Bible, says this about Genesis 2: 22 for the choice of a rib by God to create a woman: “Not made out of his head to top him, not out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved and provided.” This is talking about us ladies, and it’s the Hebrew explanation of “submissive” “helper” who both have a term of function rather than worth. Take the following list based on His word close to your heart and mind, and see how God will manifest the one He reserved for you.
Father God, I pray today according to your Word that never fails in the Name of Jesus that:
1. My future husband is a practicing believer in Jesus name.
“Do not be yoked together with an unbeliever, for what agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16). Do you know that you are not supposed to be with an unbeliever? How can you settle a good and strong foundation in your marriage if Jesus is not the center of your marriage? While you are praying, you are reading your bible, he is watching football? There is nothing wrong with watching football, but if you never get together to pray, read and study the Word of God, and you are doing it by yourself, what kind of spiritual life do you intend to live? Do you intend to live frustrating all your life, fighting to convince your faith to someone that is supposed to be the foundation of your life? Remember in the verse above, in Genesis 24:63-67, Isaac was meditating on the Word of God when he lifted his eyes, and saw his bride! Do you want to disobey God, not trust and wait on Him? The Word of God said in 2 Corinthians 6:14-16, what agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? Think about it, your husband will have an unbelievable amount of influence over your daughters and sons, and if you want your children to love Jesus deeply, choose a godly man!
2. God is the center of my future husband’s life in Jesus name.
“With wisdom are riches and honor, enduring wealth and prosperity. My fruit is better than fine gold; what I yield surpasses choice silver.” (Proverbs 8:18-19). Ladies, can you imagine having a man who seeks God’s wisdom in all his decisions? This is what God for us.
3. My husband loves me as Christ loves the Church and sacrifices Him for her in Jesus name.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25) This verse demonstrates to us how God wants our husbands to love us, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. But how did Jesus love the church? Jesus laid down His life for it, so our future husbands needs to lay down their lives and sacrifices themselves for us to save us, God wants a hero in our life! 🙂
4. My husband has strong work ethics in Jesus name.
This verse demonstrates to A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest- and poverty will come upon you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.” (Proverbs 6:10-11). Do you even know that a man who does not work is ungodly, and is not part of God’s plan for us to have a man that does not provide? Genesis 2 tells us that God puts Adam in the garden to keep and preserve before He brings the woman to him. And the institution of labor was established. What does that tell you?
5. My husband honors God with his body, and do not commit adultery nor fornication.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). Fornication is forbidden from God! God’s plan for us is abstinence until we get married on both sides, but satan’s plan is to confuse us and make people have sex outside marriage. Remember that satan is not a creator, but he is intelligent, which means that he copies everything from God, and twisted in a blend of fear and confusion and make men do the opposite of what God desires and commands. Ladies, if only, you could understand how disastrous it is to commit fornication and adultery in your life. You will ask God for the strength to keep you from doing it. And God did not put this rule just for us, but also for men. Honoring God through our body is God’s command and desires, and you need to make sure that you do not fall in the trap of ungodly men who tell you that it does not matter because we are still getting married. RUN and never look back if you hear that! I know that it can be a challenge for us and is not easy at all, but do you really think that if you could not do it, God will forbid it?
6. My future husband has strong conviction on the sacredness of fidelity.
“May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth, may you be ever captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress?” (Proverbs 5:18-20) A man is intelligent in Jesus when he understands that looking at other women is against the Word of God, and his infidelity will only creates sorrow, resentment and betrayal, and all its prayers will be hindered by God (1 Peter 3:7).
Next week, if God wants, we will complete the list according to the Word of God. And when we are done with this series, we will be looking for verses on what God is expecting to be as a godly wife in order to better receive that godly man in our life in Jesus name.
Question of the day: Do you pray to God for your future husband?
Until then, all the Abigails of God, remember you are the Joy of God, stay blessed in Christ!